You failed. Congratulations! Now keep moving forward.
So, I blew it again. I committed to writing twice a week, Wednesdays and Saturdays, and I screwed it up in under a week.
I have a great excuse. I moved houses over the weekend. (Well, technically, we’re still not done. We’ll be finishing up over the next week or so.) And moving 14 people—me, my wife, and 12 of my 13 kids—from a very large house into a not-as-large house is exhausting. That much change is kind of hard to work through.
But it’s just an excuse. In The War of Art, Steven Pressfield calls it Resistance. And it kicked my butt again.
You know what, I’m tired. Tired of waiting for things to slow down so that I can do my work. But mostly I’m just tired of having to think up good excuses for not keeping promises to myself. Sound familiar?
When somebody asks me how things are going with my dream, I’m nauseous when I have to come up with an answer that doesn’t make me look like a wuss. I mean, my dream was so big that I wrote it up on the wall where everyone could see it. It was so exciting that my pupils dilated, my pulse pounded, and I got lightheaded every time I talked to anybody about it. And it felt so real that I could actually see myself taking all of the steps needed to get there. But I didn’t. Again.
I failed. That’s the blunt way to put it. I let Resistance beat me. I guess this is where I remind myself to keep going.
Yes, I haven’t made any real progress in a couple of months. Yes, I’ve probably disappointed people—myself, if no one else. Yes, this illustrates what my real level of integrity is. (Ouch! That last one hurts.)
But all of that is in the past, at least as of this minute. Right now, I’m doing my work. Worrying about it now just allows it to color the future, and that’s not what I want. I suspect we all share that. Overcoming Resistance is a battle that must be fought and won daily.
If winners fail more than anybody else, maybe we’re on the right path, though.
“Sometimes you win, and sometimes you learn.”
The lesson from failure, is we just have to keep moving forward.
“From failing you learn; from success, not so much.”
With all of that being said, maybe we should also try learning from the mistakes of others, as well as the ones we make ourselves. There’s not enough time in life to personally fail at everything.
But the most important lesson is to do the work. That’s how we beat Resistance. That’s how we ultimately succeed.
Note: This post originally appeared on the Entrepreneur Fathers blog, where it lamented an earlier defeat. It has been updated here to better reflect the nature of my current failure.